There comes a time in some of our lives when we have to live with people who are not our families or our high school buddies and who are our so called roommates. This is the time when everyone wishes for harmony and longs for home comforts and wants to get well along with their ‘roomies’. But sadly, not all of us get ‘angels’ as our room partners and sometimes we end up with someone totally opposite of what we wished for. And here, the rule of opposites attract does not apply at any rate.
So
how do we live with such people, for say a whole year, without getting stressed
out and ending up pulling at each other’s hairs. Hard to get along with
roommates will cause many problems. It'll make your mood worse, reduce the
willingness of learning, and you may feel no sense of belonging. This happens
for many reasons especially because of people having differences in behaviors and
thoughts. For example, one likes a silent room when reading his/her books,
while another likes a noisy room with music playing so loudly to the point
where the other person can’t study, which naturally, poses a problem. Then,
they might have a conflict between a silent room and a noisy room.
To
improve the situation, you can discuss the problems with your roommates, if
he/she doesn't mean it, just solve and let through. Also, respect your
roommate's privacy as you're not the only one who has to live in a
sardine can with someone. Somewhere along the
line, you've already learned how to state a problem, brainstorm
alternatives, and choose a solution. Some of the best friendships in
college are made after having lived together. Getting to know each other as
a roommate first and friend second makes you more compatible to live
together peacefully.
Besides,
we need to know that everyone has shortcomings. No one is perfect, you bear
with someone, and maybe someone bears with you too. Having a roommate isn't a
problem. It’s an opportunity to learn about yourself and when we finally
end the study, going out for work, we'll miss the time getting together.
Hope
everyone could live in harmony with their roommates!
